Wind Beneath My Wings

This week, I met with a client I've had for a while and was trying to get her to open up more. I was hoping we could really process her situation, as it is rather hard. She's in her 50s and has a disease process where she understands what is going on, she's completely aware of her situation, but cannot do anything to stop it. She's at the age where she feels that she should be starting to take care of her parents and helping her son get ready for his wedding, but instead her parents and son are now having to take care of her. It's hard for her to stay in bed when she'd rather be outside, or rather, would rather be anywhere but a nursing home.


She enjoys the music she listened to when she was younger, which happens to be 80s popular music. With that in mind, I pulled out Bette Midler's "Wind Beneath My Wings", which you can listen to below.

Before I sang it, I asked her to think about who this song describes for her. After the song was finished, she said, "That's easy. It makes me think of my parents." We began talking about her parents and she was saying how they were such good people and really had tried everything to help her. As she was talking, her expression seemed to show that she was thinking very hard. At one point she stopped and said, "Me being in this situation must be really hard for them, too." I was so glad she made that shift in perspective. Not that she was complaining about herself before, but now it seemed that she was aware that her parents were grieving for her and it helped her to appreciate them that much more. She shared some stories of how they have helped her and then we discussed plans for her to tell them how much they mean to her. 


I don't know if she has or will let them know how much they mean to her, but I know that she really is grateful for them and I just hope they know it.


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New blog to check out is : Bliss Music Therapy. She hasn't updated her blog for a while, but what she has posted is good information!