This week was really hard in some spots. I had a GPS stolen from my company car, almost killed a few times by people pulling out in front of me, and had a particularly hostile encounter with a client's son. Those weeks happen and I'm admitting that it stressed me out quite a bit. However, I refuse to let that define my week. Here's a story from Tuesday that was a bright spot in my week.
I got a new referral over the weekend and went to go complete the assessment. In case I haven't covered this in a previous post, I'll do a quick review of what I look for in an assessment. I am assessing how I can help a client with my services, so I look for their needs and how I can use my role and their strengths to help them meet that need. I look for social needs [such as isolation or loneliness], emotional distress [anger, depression, anxiety], physical discomfort [pain or agitation], and spiritual concerns [questions of afterlife or suffering]. I can meet these needs through a variety of means on a case-by-case basis.
Okay, back to the story. This woman is in her 60s, which is fairly young, but not unheard of. She is very aware of her situation but is having a difficult time coping. She regularly spoke of wanting to "get better". When I was able to bring up the subject of music, however, her whole demeanor changed. She likes classical music, which is something you don't hear often in northern Iowa. Usually, I get a response of "Lawrence Welk" or "country western" with an occasional "jazz music", all of which I am well stocked. Classical music, though, is something different. We started talking about it and she enjoys not just little guitar etudes, of which I have a few, but she started throwing about composers like Wagner and Vivaldi and operas like La Boheme. Way out of my league as far as playing ability, although I do enjoy listening to them at times. She described the music as having the ability to "make my heart soar" and she loved to sing. She did not study music or perform, but always had a deep seeded love of that style. At the end, she did state that she likes "little swing tunes, too" which gave me something to play for her. She would close her eyes, bob her head around, and smile when I was done and she'd talk about her experiences in music. It was a good session, not in that a lot of emotions were processed, but in a rapport building sense. I feel she really opened up to me, which will be a huge tool in my favor going forward.
With the knowledge I now have of her, I'm planning on trying to provide a CD player and some classical music for her to listen to. To help with her grief, I'm going to try to lead her in some guided imagery, which I'll try to blog about when it happens. That's definitely a topic I'd need another post to do even a hint of justice to. Until then, here's some more reading for you to do. Check out The Mindful Music Therapist to read up on some great music therapy conversations!
Friday, May 25, 2012
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Wind Beneath My Wings
This week, I met with a client I've had for a while and was trying to get her to open up more. I was hoping we could really process her situation, as it is rather hard. She's in her 50s and has a disease process where she understands what is going on, she's completely aware of her situation, but cannot do anything to stop it. She's at the age where she feels that she should be starting to take care of her parents and helping her son get ready for his wedding, but instead her parents and son are now having to take care of her. It's hard for her to stay in bed when she'd rather be outside, or rather, would rather be anywhere but a nursing home.
She enjoys the music she listened to when she was younger, which happens to be 80s popular music. With that in mind, I pulled out Bette Midler's "Wind Beneath My Wings", which you can listen to below.
Before I sang it, I asked her to think about who this song describes for her. After the song was finished, she said, "That's easy. It makes me think of my parents." We began talking about her parents and she was saying how they were such good people and really had tried everything to help her. As she was talking, her expression seemed to show that she was thinking very hard. At one point she stopped and said, "Me being in this situation must be really hard for them, too." I was so glad she made that shift in perspective. Not that she was complaining about herself before, but now it seemed that she was aware that her parents were grieving for her and it helped her to appreciate them that much more. She shared some stories of how they have helped her and then we discussed plans for her to tell them how much they mean to her.
I don't know if she has or will let them know how much they mean to her, but I know that she really is grateful for them and I just hope they know it.
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New blog to check out is : Bliss Music Therapy. She hasn't updated her blog for a while, but what she has posted is good information!
She enjoys the music she listened to when she was younger, which happens to be 80s popular music. With that in mind, I pulled out Bette Midler's "Wind Beneath My Wings", which you can listen to below.
Before I sang it, I asked her to think about who this song describes for her. After the song was finished, she said, "That's easy. It makes me think of my parents." We began talking about her parents and she was saying how they were such good people and really had tried everything to help her. As she was talking, her expression seemed to show that she was thinking very hard. At one point she stopped and said, "Me being in this situation must be really hard for them, too." I was so glad she made that shift in perspective. Not that she was complaining about herself before, but now it seemed that she was aware that her parents were grieving for her and it helped her to appreciate them that much more. She shared some stories of how they have helped her and then we discussed plans for her to tell them how much they mean to her.
I don't know if she has or will let them know how much they mean to her, but I know that she really is grateful for them and I just hope they know it.
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New blog to check out is : Bliss Music Therapy. She hasn't updated her blog for a while, but what she has posted is good information!
Friday, May 11, 2012
One More Session
Every once in a while, a nurse gives me a call and asks me to see a client who has taken a quick decline. Many times, patients who need extra support are given an "RLC" or "Radical Loving Care" designation for a short time. This is texted out to everybody in the office so they know who needs the extra help at that time. We all try to make it there, but I'm not always able to be there before they die. Many times, that is the end result of RLC, but sometimes the decline levels off and they may not need they extra support as much as initially thought. On Monday, I got the call before the text was even sent out, so I know it was important for the client and family that I be there, so first thing I did was stop there. This is the client who I spoke of in Play One More. When I got there, there were 3 daughters and some of their children, as well as the client's pastor. That is always a big red flag for me. Pastors always have people to see and things to do, despite all the jokes implying they only work for one hour on Sundays. If a pastor is just sitting in a chair in the dining room, waiting for something to happen, then I always assume something will happen soon. I got set up in the patient's bedroom [she lived in her own home] and invited everyone into the room. I wanted this to be a group session. I wanted to not only help the client relax [something she was not very good at in the past], but also to allow the family to communicate with the client, share stories, and feel the support that they were all providing for each other.
It started off with the family members showing little interest in being a part of music. Despite my encouragement, I was pretty much singing alone to the client. I began to engage the family more by asking them questions, specifically about music and their mother. They all seemed to recall a song she enjoyed, a story of the her dancing, or [for those that were there for my previous sessions] how she would light up during our sessions. This began a nice time of sharing and music. People would talk about songs she liked and I would play the ones I had. While playing, though, only one other person was singing. The only time I got them to sing was on the last song, "Jesus Loves Me." I set up by saying, "I can really feel the love you have for your mother. She's so lucky to have you here with her. This is an important time to spend with her and I know that she knows you're here. I know she's very happy you're with her. Let's sing this one like we're taking her place for a moment, thinking about what she's feeling right now." We started singing and everybody else joined it, tearfully making their way through that familiar tune. Even the pastor was getting misty, which speaks volumes about his connection and dedication to this family. After this, I tried to encourage them, told them to call with any concerns or changes, and left.
The patient died about an hour after I left. I will remember her fondly, as someone who walked in the first time assuming I'd be kicked out and was really welcomed with open arms, both in a literal and figurative sense. I hope Lillian's family knows how much their mother meant to everybody who got to see her.
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New to the music therapy blogosphere is The Traveling Songstress. Check out her new blog and give her some support!
It started off with the family members showing little interest in being a part of music. Despite my encouragement, I was pretty much singing alone to the client. I began to engage the family more by asking them questions, specifically about music and their mother. They all seemed to recall a song she enjoyed, a story of the her dancing, or [for those that were there for my previous sessions] how she would light up during our sessions. This began a nice time of sharing and music. People would talk about songs she liked and I would play the ones I had. While playing, though, only one other person was singing. The only time I got them to sing was on the last song, "Jesus Loves Me." I set up by saying, "I can really feel the love you have for your mother. She's so lucky to have you here with her. This is an important time to spend with her and I know that she knows you're here. I know she's very happy you're with her. Let's sing this one like we're taking her place for a moment, thinking about what she's feeling right now." We started singing and everybody else joined it, tearfully making their way through that familiar tune. Even the pastor was getting misty, which speaks volumes about his connection and dedication to this family. After this, I tried to encourage them, told them to call with any concerns or changes, and left.
The patient died about an hour after I left. I will remember her fondly, as someone who walked in the first time assuming I'd be kicked out and was really welcomed with open arms, both in a literal and figurative sense. I hope Lillian's family knows how much their mother meant to everybody who got to see her.
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New to the music therapy blogosphere is The Traveling Songstress. Check out her new blog and give her some support!
Saturday, May 5, 2012
Taking Cues
Sometimes, I get a chance to see a video that really affects my work. Last week, I saw a YouTube video of something called "validation therapy", which was very interesting. I don't necessarily subscribe to every aspect of this video, but really liked a lot of the concepts. Give this a watch before reading on.
Notice how Naomi Feil used touch and music to connect with Gladys Wilson. It really seemed that through the two aspects, she was able to put herself in very deep relationship with Gladys. Although not music therapy, this was definitely therapeutic. The changing of tempo with Gladys's is a concept very common in music therapy called the iso-principle. "Iso" means same, similar, or alike in Greek. The idea is that by matching someone else's cues, we can incorporate someone in a music therapy session who may not be able interact in other ways. It can also be used to affect and judge non-verbal signs of pain or anxiety. For example, fast shallow breathing at the beginning of a session may signify some level of anxiety, but by the end of a session using the iso-principle, the client may have slowed their breath and may be breathing comfortably.
I tried to incorporate touch and music into one of my sessions this week. A new assessment with a patient with dementia left me wondering what to do. Many times, with a hospice diagnosis, which is the diagnosis that makes them appropriate for our services, dementia, little interaction, if any, can be had with them. These are times when I generally try to just provide a compassionate presence, which I wrote about last week. This time, I sang unaccompanied and held the client's hand. I did not get a huge response from the client, but I did feel much more connected to the client. I used the client's breath rate to direct the tempo of my music. As I stated, there were no huge breakthroughs, but I can say that I felt very close to the client at that time. I think this is something I'll be doing more often.
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This week, I've enjoyed the posts of the Music Therapy Tween. She's a fantastic music therapist who also is part of a great podcast called the Music Therapy Round Table.
Notice how Naomi Feil used touch and music to connect with Gladys Wilson. It really seemed that through the two aspects, she was able to put herself in very deep relationship with Gladys. Although not music therapy, this was definitely therapeutic. The changing of tempo with Gladys's is a concept very common in music therapy called the iso-principle. "Iso" means same, similar, or alike in Greek. The idea is that by matching someone else's cues, we can incorporate someone in a music therapy session who may not be able interact in other ways. It can also be used to affect and judge non-verbal signs of pain or anxiety. For example, fast shallow breathing at the beginning of a session may signify some level of anxiety, but by the end of a session using the iso-principle, the client may have slowed their breath and may be breathing comfortably.
I tried to incorporate touch and music into one of my sessions this week. A new assessment with a patient with dementia left me wondering what to do. Many times, with a hospice diagnosis, which is the diagnosis that makes them appropriate for our services, dementia, little interaction, if any, can be had with them. These are times when I generally try to just provide a compassionate presence, which I wrote about last week. This time, I sang unaccompanied and held the client's hand. I did not get a huge response from the client, but I did feel much more connected to the client. I used the client's breath rate to direct the tempo of my music. As I stated, there were no huge breakthroughs, but I can say that I felt very close to the client at that time. I think this is something I'll be doing more often.
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This week, I've enjoyed the posts of the Music Therapy Tween. She's a fantastic music therapist who also is part of a great podcast called the Music Therapy Round Table.
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